Learning “virtues” through the mind

One of the aspects that I remember in my experience as a BK, was the emphasis on learning “spiritual virtues” through the understanding of the mind.
For instance, before the BK experience; I used to behave with discipline. This is something that I learned through the practice of sports not through any kind of spiritual class. Others observed that I had “discipline.” That is how that word came into my experience. Then, “discipline” was part of the definition I had about myself.

There are 2 aspects to recognize once the mind is engaged with a definition.
First, was my inability to be flexible with “my discipline.” The definition I had about myself was so strong that did not allow me to change patterns according to the circumstance. In the long run, this “discipline” became a tyrant as flexibility wasn’t allowed. “Will power” was misused many times to force myself to DO things.
In the BK world, this scene was resolved through the use of yet another word: Love.
DO things with love. The ideal of the mind about doing things with “love” inflicted even further pain and discomfort, which was covered with the ideal of being “disciplined.” That brought acceptance of self-denial and the misunderstanding that this, was in fact love.

The second aspect is that this definition of myself as “disciplined” was one of the “virtues” I would use to describe myself. The typical question in BK retreats was: “Name 2 virtues which describe yourself.”
Obviously, discipline was there. “Myself” was enhanced with this label. “ I have discipline. I need to acquire other virtues.” It never came to my mind how the extension of this “good” word or virtue, could even hurt me.

Let us take a look at other “virtue” in the Bk world (Thanks to my sister Raysha for this.)
In the BK world, generosity; typically comes from the mind. BKs will “practice generosity.” That “practice” leads necessarily to comparison with others, since the mind compares in order to check if in fact, “I am generous now.”
As a consequence, this understanding of the mind of what generosity is; will bring greater ego in the BK follower. The “I am generous,” necessarily will find those who are not. “I am pure,” will necessarily compare with those who aren’t. Otherwise, how can I use that label to define myself as “improving”?

“I am generous, disciplined,” etc. only shows the extension of the ego.
When generosity comes from BEING, from the heart; that generosity cannot be defined. It cannot be put into words for others to “practice.”
“Dadi only has 3 sets of clothes.” If dadi uses that example to inflict the value of austerity onto others, that shows that this value enhances her perception of self. This austerity is used to enhance ego.

Avyakt7-NG understands that for beginners, there is a need to put words and definitions for everything. There is a need to label what is “good” from what is “bad.” However, if there is lack of depth; our “spiritual world” will be stuck in labels and practices. We will not be able to grow beyond the mind.
“Virtues” do not “work” by themselves. In Life, harmony and balance are way more important.

Discipline and flexibility are ONE. Without discipline, flexibility is self-indulgence. Without flexibility, discipline is tyranny. There is no “line” dividing both. There is no way for the mind to understand when to “use” one and not the other. It is a matter of feeling the balance and for that, we need to go away from the mind and its conditionings.