The Spiritual process of BEING rather than DOING

I find myself sharing in this blog my own process. As I observe now, the most important process I have been into is the recognition of what is known as BEING as the main factor in spiritual transformation.

Although that word BEING has been written many times in many articles in capital letters to make a contrast with DOING, there are very few who could grasp the meaning as they haven’t been aware of their own changes.

BEING is difficult to define or explain. Because BEING is not part of the mental realm and the use of words to describe objects. Let me put it in a context then:

I recall the time when I was playing with toys when I was a kid. Then little by little, the activity withered away. Toys weren’t my thing anymore. Did anyone prohibit me from playing with toys? No. Did I get a long preaching about the need to stop playing with toys? No. It just happened. That is a change of BEING.

How do I know that? There was no need to play with toys again. I did not have the ‘temptation’ to play with them. There was no suffering or sacrifice on my part.

If we go into this change with awareness, we could observe all the little tweaks brought by destiny and exactly know the process. However, since I did not look at those changes back then, all I have left is the recollection of my memory and theories as to why that happened: New hormones were appearing in myself. An interest in females which wasn’t there before as kids, came up. The ‘concept’ of playing changed and I was conditioned to play sports instead, where the seriousness of winning over losing was stressed; and a long list of other ‘reasons’ which we will obviate by using the catch all word: ‘etc.’

Now let me take that same example into the spiritual ‘world.’ Observe the direction of the self: “I want to achieve something.” For example: “I want to be an angel.” “I want to be self-realized.” “I want to become a well known guru.” “I want to have out of this world, blissful experiences.” “ I want to know God.”

Most individuals will start spirituality through an objective. Even if they did not have an aim and some ‘experience’ happened to them, then that opened the door for them to find out and want more of that, thus an objective sooner or later came up.

In our society to have objectives in Life is praised. We could label that person as intelligent, serious, competent, etc. His life will be driven to ‘accomplish’ those things. However, in the spiritual realm to have an objective is the engine of that person to supersede Life and destiny. That willingness to achieve, that narrow minded idea of well being or happiness or success, is what is known as ego, the “I,” which as we could see; works very well in ‘normal’ society but it does not in spirituality.

I did not will/want to stop playing with toys. It just happened. I could play with them now, but it is not the same. BEING has changed.

Let us observe the following: “If you want to be good, you need to follow these commandments.” “If you want to conquer ego, follow this recipe.” “If you want to……DO this.”

Isn’t that way a mere “cut/copy and paste” from the conditioning of society? Sure it is. Could BEING truly change by following that way? No, in my experience.

In Brahma Kumaris there is a concept known as “sanskaras” or “samskaras” which are impressions or psychological imprints which remain in the soul when there is a reincarnation. Basically, old habits, predispositions will be experienced again. The classical example: If ‘I’ was a heavy smoker in any of my previous lifetimes, then that habit will come up again.

Fine. How do we deal with that?

“You must not smoke. It will kill you. It will harm others around you.” “ A Golden age soul does not smoke.”

Therefore, that ego-mind will try to change that habit to fit into the new ideas (whether true or false, that does not matter to the actual change of BEING ) by using repression. It is believed that we can change an old habit by replacing that one with a new one. That is the gist of many religious creeds: Repetition of actions, mantras, prayers, etc. However, the habit will be there. It will be buried in our consciousness but it will come up again. Repression gives the sensation that the ego has conquered the activity. It could be repressed in our whole lifetime, but it will come up again and when it does, it will be even stronger.

It is not the DOING of the ‘I’ the one which could bring a change of BEING by using rejection and repression.

It has been observed that violence is the root cause of many self imposed behaviors such as smoking. If we were aware, we could observe the first time when smoking took place: The sensations, the need behind such action. Perhaps then, we could observe some of those same sensations the following times. Then, we could realize that the act of smoking is merely an expression of a deeper emotion. That is how we could resolve the puzzle. That is known as “healing.”

Once that inner violence is acknowledged, the need to express that violence through a cigarette could change. The same holds true for any other habit which is causing self destruction. To know the cause, the driven force, means to take care of the issue.

Observe how important it is to acknowledge our emotions, to observe them and to follow them in their expression. Observe how superficial it is to heal a broken arm with a bandage of repressions. Once the emotional response settles, there is change.

What is the function of that “I” then, who is always willing to fix things by DOING new things and suppressing the old? That “I” needs to be out of the way and allow for observation to take place.

In fact, we cannot change until we have some recognition of that “I” or ego-mind . As long as we fully identify with it as being “me,” there is little that could be done. Except perhaps to use repression and fear as the tools to mitigate its expression.

However, as that fear increases so there will be violence and thus, whatever we ‘touch’ will have the recognizable stamp of on going self inflicted misery.

Awareness is the key to change without DOING a thing, for once we intently observe, then we know and by knowing there is change without choice. Otherwise, we are an easy prey to our conditioning and the surroundings of our collective consciousness.