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  • avyakt7- New Generation 4:37 AM on July 20, 2017 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , exit bk, fear, inner violence,   

    When is the time to leave BK? 

    For most the answer is “never.” But the recognition that Life changes as well as what we call “self” is not there yet. That “never” also means “never change,” which is utopia.

    As mentioned in the last article, the BK path is like a pluming pipe. It conduits followers through it. Followers are channeled to a “worthwhile” purpose in Life. That is helpful for many as otherwise, they may feel lost, alone.
    The pipe is already made. Attempts to drill it  and change it around so the water leaks into other places is discouraged by the BK movement. It is understandable.

    Everything works fine while a person feels fulfilled. He feels at “home.”
    However, there may be times when the path is no longer appreciated as giving fulfillment, but rather as constrictive, detrimental to our health by squeezing the life out of it.

    It is also understandable that many followers may have experienced this many times in their BK Life, however; they stayed and persisted. Will power was used and perhaps other great experiences happened because of that persistence. That was the incentive needed to stick around!

    Sometimes, the water will start leaking through the pipe. It may be a small aperture which was made through the same force of running water itself. The pipe is no longer enough.

    We could attempt to patch it, we could come back again some other time… there are many solutions not to break away.

    The thought of leaving may be coming to our minds, but fear of losing everything we already built (relationships, positions, power, a routine or life style) will keep us there.

    Whether we stay or not, is not the question. Truly, it doesn’t matter. What matters is if we are “true” to ourselves.

    Many have given their lives and gone “through the rainbow” early, out of some sickness. They used their will power alone to stay as long as they did, but their “effort” will not take them to “heaven.”
    The act of not listening to inner feelings, was a violent act to the self.  For outsiders, it may look as the act of a “pukka soul.” But the crucifixion is hidden inside. That is dishonesty with the self.

    Paradoxically, we went through our fears to join the BK religion and to depart from mainstream society’s ways. Now, we may need to go through our fears to go away from it… or to stay.
    What is the teaching?
    To acknowledge our fears. The situations are only pointing to fear, which otherwise, we wouldn’t be able to perceive. 

    When the mind traps a person with a belief system, it is hard to listen to our feelings.
    When a person lives Life through the acknowledgement of inner feelings only, the mind may resent that journey.

    When the mind and feelings are in harmony, there is unity, congruency, beauty. Any action in that state is what it needs to BE and that is way more important, than to choose what seems for the mind and its conditioning,  to be “right.”

    For the common good.

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  • avyakt7- New Generation 8:07 AM on December 20, 2016 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Ascetic, , , , enthusiasm, extreme, fear, , , , , , zeal   

    The danger of extremes 

    Balance, harmony, vitality. Those labels are more than words, indescribable states of being.
    There are no formulas, not methods to “get there,” for no one but yourself could find that state.

    Harmony, vitality and balance are never found in extremes.
    If there is a suggestion that I’d like to convey to BK brothers and sisters out of my experience in the Brahma Kumaris movement; is the above.

    Brahma Kumaris is an ascetic path meant to reform an individual. Every individual has different needs, different timing. Once the timing is over, “zeal and enthusiasm” will be lacking. At that point, many will DO things to continue on, to force things. The rationale goes something like this: It is the “right thing to DO,” “I should be doing this,” “I am an example,” “what the senior/God may think about me?” etc.
    The outcome is the feeling of duty. It is a burden that many are willing to live with as “martyrs” for the rest of their lives.
    That is when we reach the extreme. However, the conditioning of the mind and all the learned fears imbibed through continuous hammering of beliefs, could be very resilient.

    Life “now” is no longer an enjoyable experience, but a thing to fear for we have to be careful not to miss our “opportunity” to be someone in the  future,  the “Golden age.”
    The belief is that we know exactly what to DO but, that DOING does not change BEING in the most minimum.
    Why?
    For when there is fear to Life there cannot be love. Love changes, transforms. Fear stagnates.

    That is how a BK brother or sister could be proud to be X number of “years in gyan,” but that doesn’t tell the full story.
    There may be fear underneath which is covered up so we can look “good” now and to convince ourselves that this will take us to a happy “Golden age” in the future, with a “good status,” a veeman and a Life of artistic endeavors in debonair style.
    Make your life miserable now. Suck it up in the name of God. Repress yourself but label it as being virtuous. Tomorrow, “you” will be a happy camper!

    That is a self-inflicted lie.

    Reformation ends when we discover inner honesty.
    That is what we have lost by living under the conditioning of a society. 
    Rather than observing that from a different perspective, the one offered by Brahma Kumaris; and use that time to heal our traumas; we use the time to become self-righteous by being oblivious of our own feelings and observations and many times become obsessed with an ideal, which we will always fall short on reaching. It is the pie in the sky syndrome.

     The extreme has been reached and we are not aware of it.

    This is how many followers have lost their own lives. It is not because of the BK path, for their mission is to entice the follower to follow until the “end,” as otherwise it will not take the effect of a reforming path.

    There is no glory in reaching the extreme, but to experience it can only take someone sooner or later, into the other extreme. Paradoxically, the extreme that is avoided, will be embraced. That may be the Life teaching; therefore, there is nothing wrong with reaching the extreme, it is neither good nor bad; just “is.” Don’t worry. Whether you get there or not, you will be alright…   Enjoy the game. Be aware of it.  🙂

     For the common good.

    Happy Holidays! Until January 3rd! 🙂

     
    • Dinesh 4:31 AM on December 30, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Hi Ahnanda,

      Both of your articles “The danger of extremes” and “Inner dishonesty behind spiritual path” were real great. I will definitely share my experience of reaching on an extreme in BK path when I had left them for 4 to 5 months. But not now, later, as I have some experience and a question to ask.
      I was just pondering over your articles and reflecting on them and a thing came to my mind that there has be a state for a person who is on some or the other kind of spiritual path where he/she becomes free from all sorts of questions. I am not on that stage as I am still asking so many questions, it may come, who knows 

      But that is not my question. My question is again regarding the practice of “Awareness” or “Being Awareness”. As I have been practicing it without doing Rajyoga from past 10 to 11 days and as you said in your article that “Observation is the core”. What I observed or rather experienced was “The mind” is still most of the times taking me into future. I am talking about my own personal case of being more in future because some people who choose this practice of “Awareness” can come across an experience where “The mind” takes them more in past.

      When I say my mind takes me in future, it goes like this; I am interested into dance a lot and go to dance class twice a week. When I listen to music, I end up visualising myself doing many many steps in my mind. But apart from that, my mind sometimes gives me visualisations as if I have become a great dancer of the word. Like me dancing in front of large crowd like a big concert or something, and it happens in awake state, not in dreams of my sleeping state. This was just one example, likewise, a person practising spirituality (this happens with me as well), the mind gives visualisations either in awake state or in sleeping state that you have become a great spiritual leader of the word, a great Buddha.

      What I personally fell is that, this should not happen. Please comment and throw some light on it.

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    • avyakt7- New Generation 11:05 AM on January 4, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      Hello Dinesh,
      Thank you for your question. “This should not happen,” is the path of denial. What you experience is what is happening in you, that has value.
      If you are able to catch this in the moment that is happening, it will not happen. That is all. The mind does not live in the “now.” To catch that, may be called as to live in “no-mind.”

      Best to you. 🙂

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  • avyakt7- New Generation 1:32 PM on June 22, 2016 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , , fear, , ,   

    The deep routed Fear of Leaving 

    Thank you for your question.
    How to overcome that deep routed fear?
    By being aware of it.
    Become fully aware that it is FEAR. Let us not sugar coat that feeling with “nice” words, such as using the word “love” instead of the feeling of fear.
    Let us not think that “I should be loving. I shouldn’t feel this thing. It is Maya.” That is to sugar coat the real feeling.
    Once you recognize that fear, recognize what do you fear about? What is the object of that fear?
    Is it a mental belief about the “future” or something “real” in the “now”? Is it a tale, second hand knowledge about what will happen in the “future”? Is it what others will think about you? Is it what the organization will label you as? Is it that you have “invested” so much through years of faithful membership?
    Discover that object of fear.
    Then what?

    Get to know that object of fear. Make a point on knowing it. If you cannot, if you cannot meet that source of fear, then it is a mental belief.

    Let me give an example. Let us say that you are a “surrendered soul.” The reality is that if you leave, you may not have skills to survive. You may not even have money to live. That is “real” fear. It is in the “now.” That “real” fear could be resolved “now” as well. But… Become aware of the real reasons as to why you are in the organization. You may be dependent. That dependency could be financial, emotional, ego-trip, attachment, faithful to an experience with Baba, etc… discover that fear. It is everything but… Love.

    Observe that this experience is helping you to discover who you truly ARE… fear at this time, the “now.”
    If you fear, there is no Love.

    I am not persuading you to DO anything. I have known many individuals who felt that they fit in the organization, they love it, they have found “home.” That is great! Excellent! You should see that happiness in their faces. If it is not there, if you have to “make an effort to work on that,” then you are just being dishonest to your feelings.

    Isn’t honesty a virtue?
    You are in front of the pool. You may jump or you may go back. Fear may take you back to a safe site, but then… you will never know how to swim by yourself.
    “Why are you in front of the pool with your swimming attire, then?”

    That is the question that you should ask and answer by yourself.

    For the common good.

     
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