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  • avyakt7- New Generation 11:36 AM on June 6, 2017 Permalink | Reply
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    Brahmacharya 

    Celibacy is a “black or white” practice in Brahma Kumaris.
    No sex at all, is the belief to practice to make someone more “spiritual,” “elevated,” “pure.”
    What I’d like to transmit to Brahma Kumaris readers is that Sex in itself is not ugly, sinful or impure.
    What we ARE is what makes sex into those things that the Sakar Murlis constantly speaks about.

    This is not something that I have read or that I am repeating from another guru, or another belief coming from another God. This is my own experience.
    What we ARE is not depending on a “practice” such as: “I will be compassionate while having sex.” That is a lie to ourselves. What you ARE will express without any rehearsals. It is your consciousness.

    Most individuals at this time, are experiencing an inner rebellion towards sexuality. For some, is about liberation from previous rejections and the expression of their hidden desires, although; their energy will be drained. It is about experiencing a few moments of pleasure. That is the extent of sexuality that they will know.

    For others, like in Brahma Kumaris is the continuous attempt to go beyond the body. A “yogi” is meant to conquer sexual desires through their own sheer will power and the help of God.
    Why?
    Because pleasure is not understood but feared and consequences of deep conditionings of centuries of sexual rejection, will take the individual away from the “spiritual realm” by attaching their senses to the physical body. That is the belief.

    One important thing that I have learned in this journey, is not to fight with myself. Every energy that is within has a reason to exist. By opposing to its expression, by repressing it, we are only postponing its expression. Believe me, that repressed sexual energy will express. If it is not allowed to, it will kill you.

    Of course, then we have the stories of those who have “conquered sex lust.”
    How do you know, how do you measure it? If repression means to “conquer,” that is an ugly way to deal with your sexuality. It will bring consequences.

    I am not here to tell anyone to engage in sexual activities or to reject them completely. Everyone has their own path, the range of sexuality is vast and it spans from no sex at all to lots of sex, to transcending sex lust, through refining subtle energies (Brahmacharya.) Love is in that realm for some.

    My concern is for your health. I just want to say that to be honest with your current state of BEING is the most important aspect.

    Transcendence of sexuality does not happen through rejection, will power or any sort of commandment that we wish to follow. It is a natural state, experienced once your time arrives. It is not on your hands to expedite your process. Every experience that we experience in Life, is necessary as it is.

    If you look and acknowledge where you ARE rather than what your mind tells you what “should be,” you will have the chance to enjoy the gift of living Life. When you are enjoying, you are spreading good vibrations to everyone. When you are enjoying Life, you are DOING service without any childish desires for Paradise, high status, to make subjects, etc. It is NATURAL service to humanity.
    Finally, when you are enjoying Life you are accumulating “good karma.”
    Honesty has its benefits, but those benefits will be experienced when we do not “practice” honesty, but when we ARE honest without any practice whatsoever.

    For the common good.

     
  • avyakt7- New Generation 10:25 AM on December 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    The sin of sex 

    It is the belief in Brahma Kumaris that sexuality is sinful. In the “Golden age,” “babies will be born out of the power of yoga,” it is said. Inquiring more into how the physical connection will happen between 2 human beings, will bring the following answer: “Through a kiss.”

    Nevertheless, souls in “Parandham” need to “come down” at this time through regular sex. A BK is spared from this “sinful activity.” Other less fortunate human beings will automatically fall into “sin.” The Drama needs those “sinful” souls, for other souls to come down through them and do their part in the “world stage.” Therefore, is the Drama helping only BK souls? Why is God allowing for his non-BK children to fall into sin?

    The above is the conundrum of the “universal” God helping only part of “his children.” This problem exists in religions believing in a God. Their God. Not everyone could fit their requirements.

    Sex is a problem for individuals living in the mind. These individuals are always looking for the “right” behavior, the ideal rather than to understand themselves.

    I understand that many BKs reading this may feel uncomfortable, there may be a rejection inside for topics dealing with sexuality.
    Consider this: In Brahma Kumaris, females cover their bodies as well as males, however; they do not cover their feet. In the Western world, women feet are considered one of the most common “fetishes.” (a form of sexual desire or fixation for a human body part.)
    Basically, sexual arousal is there  at the center near you, even though unwillingly. Is it possible to run away from sexuality?

    BK activities considered “good” such as singing and dancing at the core are sexual activities. Observe how singers are idolized and what they represent in society as well as dancers. They have “sex appeal.”
    The division of men and women creates a support of homosexuality which may contradict society’s standards.
    I am not saying that homosexuality is wrong or bad. I am merely stating the issues that could come up when asexuality is supported as an ideal.

    When an ideal is taken as a way of living, there is little consideration of the nature of the individual. Will power can help someone to an extent to fit an ideal. After the limit has been crossed, it becomes rejection, repression and from there guilt and shame.

    A Brahma Baba practicing celibacy after he already had children and in his older age, is not in the same situation as a 30 to 40-year-old man or younger than that.
    How could someone “conquer sex” if that person rejects it?
    That is not possible. Even though  the “ideal” exists in the world of the mind; it is not real.

    Will power is misused in this endeavor. It is not the activity of sex which is “sinful” but the type of consciousness of those engaged in a sexual act. In that, celibacy could be “sinful” as well, for any rejection of what Nature and Life has offered us, will be a negation of Life itself.

    For the common good.

     
  • avyakt7- New Generation 11:33 AM on December 6, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    The fascination with Sexuality 

    One of the most read articles in the blog “Exploring the depth of Living” is this one: Why Brahma Kumaris deny sex?
    (https://avyakt7.com/?s=why+brahma+kumaris+deny+sex )

    In most BKs there is a fascination with sex. Out of that learned rejection, there is an inner fight.
    I will be sharing more articles related with sexuality in this blog as this is my personal experience and path.

    Observe “avyakt7’s writing” back in 2012. Some anger and a deep need to “prove” to others was in him. His “proof” was in part his personal experience at that point in his life, and a belief system learned through the Brahma Kumaris. Helpful at the time, unhelpful now.

    Now, let us look at Brahma Baba and the Yagya in the beginning. “Aham Brahmasmi” (omnipresence) was their belief. It changed into God’s Shiva (personal God) later on.

    Individuals who are not aware of the journey of self realization, they could interpret this as: “The latest belief is the true one.”
    That is a big mistake. In self-realization what is the “true concept to believe in” means nothing. It is not about “having the truth,” it is about experiencing the complete journey, the “Yes” and the “No.”

    Without this journey, how is it possible not to reject the side that we do not believe in? If you take a stand on a particular side and identify your ego with that side (celibacy) that means that rejection of sexuality will be there.

    Someone may say: “But you experienced sexuality before Brahma Kumaris, so celibacy was the complete journey…”
    Not quite. The sexuality I experienced before Brahma Kumaris was more or less the “normal one.” Ejaculation all the time, even premature ejaculation and a sense of feeling depleted, as my energy was taken away.
    This is not “bad,” but like I said before, part of the range of experiences in Life.

    In Nature, we have people who are integrating their sexual energies within themselves, they do not require a partner and they can practice celibacy “naturally.” There are other people that integrate their sexuality with a partner, thus sexuality is natural for them. In between those 2 extremes, there is a range of experiences. The example of Yogananda is the one of celibacy. The example of Yogananda’s guru; Yukteswar Giri is the one of practice of the family Life. Both individuals were in the path of self realization.

    Anil mentioned about following the example of Gandhi in his preference for Celibacy. Please read this article.   Whether this article is true or not is not the point here.

    Observe that Gandhi wanted to follow what he “thought” to be “pure, clean, etc.” without looking at his own nature at the time.  The ideal is more important than his own Life. That is the issue with followers of religions. Their concern is to follow a particular behavior, a moral standard created by someone and labeling that as “pure, good, etc.” People may try it and “fail.” Guilt will be felt. Others may fail but still live within the religion/belief system as hypocrites. In reality this is not “failure” but simply it is not within their nature.

    Sexuality goes along with the path of self-realization, as the energies of beliefs, traumas and emotional hang ups are cleared; the nadis in the “sexual system” are cleared and sexuliaty has a different dimension. Whether the nature of the individual is to be celibate or not is not an issue, what matters is what the individual IS now: Less ego, less hang ups, more openness.

    Caught up in DOING and following what we believe a realized Godly man is; we forget the most important thing: Ourselves. Then we can lie to ourselves to make us believe that we are going someplace. Honesty, can take as out of this loop. No one else can.

    For the common good.

     
    • Anil Kumar 12:19 PM on December 7, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you avyakt7-NG.

      The experiences shared by some of the spiritual leaders about celibacy and its practice in their life talks about their tricks/practices which helped them in their journey. Many a times, the same tricks works for us up to some extent. Then what’s wrong in following them. The practice of celibacy was never part of my dictionary. I was a normal guy, who enjoyed the practice of masturbation and watching porn. Just few years before, I was introduced to celibacy after I read about Gandhi. Naturally, I googled about celibacy, and read about its benefits mentioned by different gurus (Google also introduced me to avyakt7 blog). The need for practicing celibacy didn’t come naturally from my inside like hunger, sleep etc. Though, the need for having sex/masturbation was felt inside, I didn’t found it mandatory. After ejaculation, the result was a sense of weakness. My question is those who practiced true celibacy or those who are practicing it now had/has the desire for it naturally or it was introduced to them by someone like BK system? I feel that when it comes naturally from inside then you are ready for it and you don’t need some one to guide on how to practice celibacy. After observing for a long time, I came to a conclusion that I don’t need a partner to have the experience of sex. I avoided having sex on 3 occasions even after I had a chance to do it. I think its also a part of range of experiences about sex. [Kindly bear with my poor English writing skills]

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      • avyakt7- New Generation 11:29 AM on December 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        “The practice of celibacy was never part of my dictionary. I was a normal guy, who enjoyed the practice of masturbation and watching porn. Just few years before, I was introduced to celibacy after I read about Gandhi. ”
        Anil,
        The question is :Why did you consider to change?
        If you find in yourself how you felt, then you will see that the key is in that.
        For example, I took celibacy because it agreed with my experience of feeling wasted through ejaculation and the sense of being unfulfilled. Celibacy took me away from that sensation, but repression started to appear.
        We blame it on sex, but deeper than that is the type of feeling, consciousness the individual has while performing an action.
        Masturbation is neither good nor bad. It is self pleasuring and you could do that with a feeling of aggression, with a sense of getting rid of the itch, with fulfilling a phantasy so the mind could be satisfied for a moment, as a way to cover sadness and frustration, etc. These feelings which show you who you are, those feelings are driving the act of sexuality. Sex is not the problem but how we feel about it.

        Likewise, there is nothing wrong with watching porn. It is there, no need to reject it. BUT, if you observe your feelings and what it does to you, then you could find out about you. It will trigger something. You may be aroused by plain aggression and how the participants display their pleasure, but the feeling of love and care in the way the participants play with each other, may not be there. Ultimately, that is the fulfilling part that most are looking for.

        While engaged deeply in sex with yourself or others, when the sensations are pleasurable, overwhelming that is when the mind needs to go away, when the hang ups need to cease for otherwise, the mind will not allow for the enjoyment of the “now.”
        Pornography is geared to the mind, but beyond that; fulfillment is in feelings.

        Life will give us the chance to discover many things about us. Our openness not to define ourselves is important for we could be able to change as everything in Life changes.
        That sort of openness liberates our core, our being from the “I.”

        You may not need a partner now to have the experience of sex, but that doesn’t mean that you may feel different in another time. That is the openness that I am talking about.
        Homosexuality may not be the thing for many of us, but it does not mean that we reject it, that we are against it.

        We could learn so much about ourselves through the observation of our reactions towards sex.
        🙂

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    • Anil Kumar 12:27 PM on December 7, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Brother,

      Kindly share your experience on the quote – ‘Take one step towards god and he takes hundred steps towards you’. This quote is regularly used as a part of teachings by BK system.

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      • avyakt7- New Generation 11:33 AM on December 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Anil,
        It just depends what we interpret as “towards god.”
        I could say that if celibacy was towards god, then god helped me at one point in my Life. Nevertheless, as “I” change and celibacy became a source of repression, I took a step towards god, and he helped me to discover a different kind of sexuality.
        Thus, God was towards celibacy… but also towards sex. 🙂

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    • Dinesh 11:04 AM on December 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      I am so touched and happy after reading this man, I don’t know how to thank you. I felt the same man, even after practising rajyoga for 5 years I still posses some sexual feelings in my dreams. My God, it’s such a big revelation, I have total respect for BKs but as far as celibacy is concerned, I totally agree with Anhada. Thanks Bro. Looking forward to read more and post more questions here. Thank u sir.

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  • avyakt7- New Generation 10:30 AM on December 1, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    The price of being labeled as “pukka” 

    “Pukka” is a word used in Brahma Kumaris to label those who behave in a “firm, permanent or unshakable,” way. Those who are there to stay until death separates them from the religion.

    It has been my observation and my own experience that an obsessive mind could transform sheer self-denial into a ticket to what is believed to be “Baba’s lap.”

    Here is my own experience. I have written quite a bit about celibacy when I was Avyakt7. I thought I have conquered “sex lust.” I had “tests” of women wanting to be closer to me, and I was “unshakable.” That was a source of pride, of ego. I paid for it. Few know that my last couple of years as a BK, I had developed prostatitis.
    Sure, I was celibate and the only way that my “normal” bodily functions of an otherwise healthy young male could have a “release,” was to have a wet dream every 4 to 6 months.
    I felt guilty. I felt a failure. I asked for forgiveness. We cannot “conquer” what we reject.

    Truly, I was repressing my own sexuality and labeling that as “conqueror of sex lust.”

    I would have continued with this repression, but in my path, in my destiny I had the help of my friend, Mathias.
    Paradoxically, sexual energy is now a very important part in my path to self-realization.

    Why do I share this?
    Because some “souls” may feel trapped, fighting their own feelings and living a life of hypocrisy.

    The practice of Celibacy is not the same for everyone, as a matter of fact, if sex is rejected, denied and repressed; there will be consequences in the human body.
    Observe how many “pukka souls,” have issues with their sexual organs or female breasts. That disease could be a way out of the physical realm.

    Nevertheless, I am not saying that this is “wrong or right.” An experience is an experience and one experience of repression will build into an experience of acceptance in the “next life.”

    As I mentioned many times already, Brahma Kumaris is a good path as long as we recognize our limits with honesty. That is part of the teaching for everyone is different, “numberwise.” Without that recognition, we will hurt ourselves.
    That is not angelic. That is not saintly. That is plain stubbornness.

    Avyakt7 New generation for BKs, perceives things differently now. Every experience in Life has a continuation in its opposite. A rejection of the opposite means the buildup of shame, guilt and a sense of failure. In the dualistic world; the opposites are meant to be together and we go from one extreme to the other of a particular experience, just to find our middle ground, our balancing act, our harmonious “middle way.”

    The journey is an individual path.

    For the common good.

    PS: I will continue sharing twice a week. Your questions/comments are welcome.

     
    • Anil Kumar Reddy Mendu 12:40 PM on December 1, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      avyakt7-NG,

      Having a wet dream means repressing sex? How to confirm whether I’m repressing sex or not? My feeling is, it is a gradual process and it takes its own time to reach the stage of a true celibate. I saw few BK brothers and sisters, who were confused whether to get marry or not. While on one side there is family/societal pressure to get marry, on the other side there is doubtfulness on own self to be a celibate. Your thoughts?

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      • ahnanda 6:27 PM on December 1, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Hi Anil,
        Wet dreams are usually unconscious events with dreams or without them. Sexual energy needs to move, to transform. If you reject sex, you are repressing it. That rejection manifests in many forms. You need to catch them. You could be ironic while talking about sex, you could feel agitated when someone speaks about it, etc. That is rejection.

        You value a lot to be celibate. Why? Please share your beliefs about it.
        Sex is not just sex. It depends on who you ARE. There could be beauty in sex as well as ugliness. Likewise, there could be beauty in celibacy as well as ugliness. Celibacy through rejection of sex is not only ugly but detrimental to your health.
        Sex through rejection of celibacy is not only ugly but detrimental to your health… 🙂

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        • Anil Kumar Reddy Mendu 1:41 PM on December 3, 2016 Permalink | Reply

          Brother,

          My beliefs about celibacy are based on my association with BK system, reading of biographies of few spiritual leaders who experimented with celibacy like Gandhi, and following avyakt7 sharings from 2012. Over a period of time, my beliefs about celibacy and sex have changed considerably from a state of rejection to accepting everything the way it is. The same is the case with vegetarianism. As you mentioned, we have to catch and transform sexual energy in the path of self-realization. The journey is a long one and unique for each of us.

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    • Gayathri 7:50 PM on December 2, 2016 Permalink | Reply

      Yes brother. Many people try to copy actions of our seniors hoping that by doing so they could become like them. So, they go to the extreme, force themselves to DO things in a particular way, not realising the fact that their stage is different from that of a senior and the transformation they want to bring in can not materialise by that method.
      Understanding the drama and being honest with one self by accepting the self as it is will make life more entertaining. 🙂

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      • avyakt7- New Generation 8:11 PM on December 2, 2016 Permalink | Reply

        Correct sister. Copying watermark actions of others does not bring internal benefit for what we ARE does not depend on what we DO, but the other way around. We cannot look at others but the self and be honest with it.
        Thank you!

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  • avyakt7- New Generation 7:45 PM on August 8, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    Question about sex in a BK relation 

    hi i am rahul.
    @avyakt7 i am not a religious hater. but do to its part of my life i want to question you.
    my gf is belongs to bk’family. she purely belives in it. she dont want to sex with me as she loves me. but she only want to do that because of bk’s rule. can you tell me if we are loves god by faith there is steal need of follow this bloody rules. i can even ready to follow it because of her but it will effects our relationship very badly. can you tell me solution.

    Thank you for your question.
    Your girlfriend is a BK. She loves you. She does not want to have sex with you because of the belief that sex is “impure.” In her mind, she is showing you her love by not having sex with you.
    You are ready to follow this because of her, but you know that this will affect your relationship.

    Many labels to consider. Your respect/attachment to a particular label will dictate your action. That is my answer.
    Girlfriend is a label. Different than the label “wife.” BK is a label. A BK does not have boyfriends, by definition. Is she a BK then?

    You love her. Love is a label. You will follow her in her beliefs even though that will hurt you. Isn’t she your wife? No? Why? Just a girlfriend, right?
    Sex is very important; but when you play with different mind made labels opposite of each other, sex can only bring trouble and guilt when your passion is expressed.

    Sex is the glue of a relationship, not the chewing gum that sticks there now but want to get rid of it later.

    For the common good.

     
  • avyakt7- New Generation 4:48 PM on July 19, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    BK Sakar Murlis and Celibacy 

    There is process in everything in Life.
    Brahma Baba wasn’t a “finished product” at a certain date.
    Sakar Murlis shows that process.
    From the moment the first Sakar Murli was put into ink up to the last one; it only shows Brahma Baba’s process.

    Translations by individuals without Brahma Baba’s experience or consciousness, changes or “updates” to those Murlis for the sake of being “politically correct,” or to reflect the changes in our society; will make those words,  challenging to understand in “depth.”
    At the surface, it is easy. Either something is “good or bad.”

    That is why, the “black or white” style in those Murlis is very appealing for the beginner spiritual seeker.

    “Do nots” become important as a new seeker thinks that ACTIONS, are the important consideration in spirituality. Many individuals will stay in that consciousness for awhile.

    “Your actions will define you.” Thus, “don’t do” if you want to be safe, but if you have a list of certain actions and activities which are “beneficial” in earning you the label of “saint,” “holy man,” “Golden age Deity,” “Angel,” etc; then by all means, DO those actions.
    So easy to understand.

    As the seeker becomes aware of the dissonance between DOING an action and FEELING, then a problem in honesty will arise.

    For example, Sex has been qualified as “impure.” I may feel “good” by following those ideas as I believe they come from God; but I may be repressing my true feelings. Therefore, even though I “don’t do it,” and I may think that I am not “falling into temptation,” my inner sentiment is not consistent with my action or lack of it.

    This inner fight, may be considered the proof that “I am impure” and thus, “I need to resist.”

    If I listen to the Sakar Murlis, I will have plenty of support as to why “I need to fight my sexual drive.”

    However, repression of sexuality will differ among individuals and their ages. Brahma Baba was in his sixties when he practiced Brahmacharya. His circumstance is not the same as a young BK.

    Very little have been taught about sexuality in Brahma Kumaris. It is not a matter of just deciding not to have sex, and repress as much as possible. Believe me, it is deeper than that. The consequence of that “practice,” may affect the physical body as well as the mind of the person (depending on the personal setting.)

    Pleasure has been qualified as “impure.” Sexuality has been qualified as the “gates to hell.”

    It is thought that what is important is the ACTION over the individual.
    Do you have an addictive personality? Do you use pleasure as an escape from pain? Have you had a bad experience with sex?

    Most women have been denied to express and explore their sexuality in many societies. Some women may not experience pleasure at all in sex. The psychological conditioning from time immemorial seems unbreakable.

    On the other hand, for most men pleasure is focused on the “sword of lust.” These men have not explored their own sexuality for that is a taboo. For men it is easy to reach an orgasm but not for many females.

    Therefore, is Sex the issue? Is the ACT the impure thing? Or rather the protagonists, the individuals bringing their own shortcomings, their taboos and mental traumas?

    Yes. The “Black or White” Sakar Murli is very easy to understand.
    “Do not have sex.” “It is bad.” Why deal with the individual’s problems? Why go into their emotional and psychological issues when it is “easy” to just resist by using a “black or white” approach,  a  one size fits all approach?

    That may be a shortcoming of the “BK method” as is typically geared for the masses at this point in time; nevertheless, unless the individual realizes about their repression, about their lack of inner honesty; there will not be a chance to move into a different consciousness.

    Yes, we have those who left the practice of Celibacy because it was too much for them, or for whatever other “reason.” They thought to be  very “smart” when they quit the practice.
    Those “reasons” do not matter.
    What actually matters in my experience, is if the realization of repression exists and with that if our action or lack of it, is consistent with our feelings.
    That is all, simple but very difficult to perceive.

    Then acceptance of our being, our role in Life appears. The fight of the mind to conquer itself as a dog looking to bite its own tail, goes away. The dog is not different than its tail as sex is not different than being a human being.

    While a human being, BE one. “Pure and impure” is not BEING. It is the conditioning of the mind defining, separating, rejecting the tail from the dog.

    For the common good.

     
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