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  • avyakt7- New Generation 11:36 AM on June 6, 2017 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , brahmacharya, , , , sexual desires, sexuality, yogi   

    Brahmacharya 

    Celibacy is a “black or white” practice in Brahma Kumaris.
    No sex at all, is the belief to practice to make someone more “spiritual,” “elevated,” “pure.”
    What I’d like to transmit to Brahma Kumaris readers is that Sex in itself is not ugly, sinful or impure.
    What we ARE is what makes sex into those things that the Sakar Murlis constantly speaks about.

    This is not something that I have read or that I am repeating from another guru, or another belief coming from another God. This is my own experience.
    What we ARE is not depending on a “practice” such as: “I will be compassionate while having sex.” That is a lie to ourselves. What you ARE will express without any rehearsals. It is your consciousness.

    Most individuals at this time, are experiencing an inner rebellion towards sexuality. For some, is about liberation from previous rejections and the expression of their hidden desires, although; their energy will be drained. It is about experiencing a few moments of pleasure. That is the extent of sexuality that they will know.

    For others, like in Brahma Kumaris is the continuous attempt to go beyond the body. A “yogi” is meant to conquer sexual desires through their own sheer will power and the help of God.
    Why?
    Because pleasure is not understood but feared and consequences of deep conditionings of centuries of sexual rejection, will take the individual away from the “spiritual realm” by attaching their senses to the physical body. That is the belief.

    One important thing that I have learned in this journey, is not to fight with myself. Every energy that is within has a reason to exist. By opposing to its expression, by repressing it, we are only postponing its expression. Believe me, that repressed sexual energy will express. If it is not allowed to, it will kill you.

    Of course, then we have the stories of those who have “conquered sex lust.”
    How do you know, how do you measure it? If repression means to “conquer,” that is an ugly way to deal with your sexuality. It will bring consequences.

    I am not here to tell anyone to engage in sexual activities or to reject them completely. Everyone has their own path, the range of sexuality is vast and it spans from no sex at all to lots of sex, to transcending sex lust, through refining subtle energies (Brahmacharya.) Love is in that realm for some.

    My concern is for your health. I just want to say that to be honest with your current state of BEING is the most important aspect.

    Transcendence of sexuality does not happen through rejection, will power or any sort of commandment that we wish to follow. It is a natural state, experienced once your time arrives. It is not on your hands to expedite your process. Every experience that we experience in Life, is necessary as it is.

    If you look and acknowledge where you ARE rather than what your mind tells you what “should be,” you will have the chance to enjoy the gift of living Life. When you are enjoying, you are spreading good vibrations to everyone. When you are enjoying Life, you are DOING service without any childish desires for Paradise, high status, to make subjects, etc. It is NATURAL service to humanity.
    Finally, when you are enjoying Life you are accumulating “good karma.”
    Honesty has its benefits, but those benefits will be experienced when we do not “practice” honesty, but when we ARE honest without any practice whatsoever.

    For the common good.

     
  • avyakt7- New Generation 9:00 AM on March 2, 2017 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , being, , , doing, , , sexuality, surrendering   

    DOING to Change BEING 

    The idea/philosophy of repressing something, not DOING something labeled as “bad” to become the opposite, “good” is flawed.
    Why?
    Energies that make up BEING have a polarity in them.
    For example, repress the energy of anger and the energy of compassion goes away as well. Every energy has its opposite, which is truly the same energy at different levels.

    For individuals living in a “Black or White” mind, to repress is something that makes sense. They do not have the capacity yet to transcend a particular energy. The Murli talks about “conquering sex lust” we may think this to be an inner fight, but we can only “conquer” what is no longer necessary for us, otherwise; we may need to transform it. Please keep this in mind, in the Murli to “conquer” is to “transform,” not to repress.
    Did Brahma Baba repress sexuality?
    Very unlikely. Look at his age when he began his BK path, look at his experiences (he was a father and married for many years) Sexual energy was no longer needed.

    Now, observe a young BK. Sexuality is in him/her. Methods to repress that sexuality will be “practiced.”
    That repression will explode inside him at some point in his life. Diseases may appear, which will be rationalized as “part of his karma,” or “settling karmic accounts to become pure.”

    “You” want to be “pure.” What do you DO? Refrain from DOING those things deemed to be “impure.” Very simple for simple minds.
    What is considered to be “impure” is a list of labels which are believed to be given by God himself. Beliefs running a Life. Beliefs controlling the mind. The bottom line is a fight, where the “winner” is you, but also the “loser.” 

    The Brahma Kumaris path is truly an exploration of the mind. If you leave the path, you will go back to be even “worse” than what you were before. Isn’t this what the Sakar Murli says?

    Do you know why?
    Because all of those things repressed, will come out with great force, like water coming out of a faucet that has been stopped from flowing, the barrier will give in and there will be great force when it comes out.  You see, there was never a change in BEING. It was only in DOING.
    To become “worse” is a natural outcome, until all energies level off again. Nevertheless, we are scared of the label “worse.” We do not see what we are DOING to ourselves, as the mind has the “right” answer, the “truth”, “God”,  and you will comply with it, no matter what; even if you die… For you are a “Pukka.”

     I have done that. I have learned my lesson about the mind. 

    Love is truly capable of changing individuals, but love that is capable of making this to happen is called ” surrendering.”

    To surrender cannot be understood when there is an “I” trying to be One with God, when there is an “I” trying to achieve “Heaven,” or a “High status” in the BK organization or in the afterlife.

    To surrender is to dissolve that “I.” Then, what “you” are will come out and the theory of “we are truly love” may no longer be “theory” for you.
    Surrendering is not only with Baba, but with anything; for it is not about who you surrender to, but is about surrendering the “I.”

    Even though BapDada have gone many times in the topic of surrendering, this keeps being misunderstood, for we want to make sense with our minds, and that cannot happen.
    Through surrendering, BEING changes without DOING and that change IS.

    Until March 21st! I will be taking a vacation. 🙂

    For the common good.

     
    • Anil Kumar 9:57 AM on March 2, 2017 Permalink | Reply

      avyakt7-NG,

      Happy vacation!

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      • Dinesh Chawla 12:15 AM on March 21, 2017 Permalink | Reply

        You really rock Ahnanda, the article “Nothing is everything” was so so amazing…:) It threw light on many things in just one place. People are really too much into words and BECOMING you know! I am already an editor working on a higher post in an MNC but my mother thinks becoming like “Neal Armstrong” (the guy who reached moon) is something a human should achieve to BECOME the BEST!
        Thanks for the article, it makes us feel lighter…:) I wish my mother could understand such articles!! hehehe 🙂

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  • avyakt7- New Generation 4:48 PM on July 19, 2016 Permalink | Reply
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    BK Sakar Murlis and Celibacy 

    There is process in everything in Life.
    Brahma Baba wasn’t a “finished product” at a certain date.
    Sakar Murlis shows that process.
    From the moment the first Sakar Murli was put into ink up to the last one; it only shows Brahma Baba’s process.

    Translations by individuals without Brahma Baba’s experience or consciousness, changes or “updates” to those Murlis for the sake of being “politically correct,” or to reflect the changes in our society; will make those words,  challenging to understand in “depth.”
    At the surface, it is easy. Either something is “good or bad.”

    That is why, the “black or white” style in those Murlis is very appealing for the beginner spiritual seeker.

    “Do nots” become important as a new seeker thinks that ACTIONS, are the important consideration in spirituality. Many individuals will stay in that consciousness for awhile.

    “Your actions will define you.” Thus, “don’t do” if you want to be safe, but if you have a list of certain actions and activities which are “beneficial” in earning you the label of “saint,” “holy man,” “Golden age Deity,” “Angel,” etc; then by all means, DO those actions.
    So easy to understand.

    As the seeker becomes aware of the dissonance between DOING an action and FEELING, then a problem in honesty will arise.

    For example, Sex has been qualified as “impure.” I may feel “good” by following those ideas as I believe they come from God; but I may be repressing my true feelings. Therefore, even though I “don’t do it,” and I may think that I am not “falling into temptation,” my inner sentiment is not consistent with my action or lack of it.

    This inner fight, may be considered the proof that “I am impure” and thus, “I need to resist.”

    If I listen to the Sakar Murlis, I will have plenty of support as to why “I need to fight my sexual drive.”

    However, repression of sexuality will differ among individuals and their ages. Brahma Baba was in his sixties when he practiced Brahmacharya. His circumstance is not the same as a young BK.

    Very little have been taught about sexuality in Brahma Kumaris. It is not a matter of just deciding not to have sex, and repress as much as possible. Believe me, it is deeper than that. The consequence of that “practice,” may affect the physical body as well as the mind of the person (depending on the personal setting.)

    Pleasure has been qualified as “impure.” Sexuality has been qualified as the “gates to hell.”

    It is thought that what is important is the ACTION over the individual.
    Do you have an addictive personality? Do you use pleasure as an escape from pain? Have you had a bad experience with sex?

    Most women have been denied to express and explore their sexuality in many societies. Some women may not experience pleasure at all in sex. The psychological conditioning from time immemorial seems unbreakable.

    On the other hand, for most men pleasure is focused on the “sword of lust.” These men have not explored their own sexuality for that is a taboo. For men it is easy to reach an orgasm but not for many females.

    Therefore, is Sex the issue? Is the ACT the impure thing? Or rather the protagonists, the individuals bringing their own shortcomings, their taboos and mental traumas?

    Yes. The “Black or White” Sakar Murli is very easy to understand.
    “Do not have sex.” “It is bad.” Why deal with the individual’s problems? Why go into their emotional and psychological issues when it is “easy” to just resist by using a “black or white” approach,  a  one size fits all approach?

    That may be a shortcoming of the “BK method” as is typically geared for the masses at this point in time; nevertheless, unless the individual realizes about their repression, about their lack of inner honesty; there will not be a chance to move into a different consciousness.

    Yes, we have those who left the practice of Celibacy because it was too much for them, or for whatever other “reason.” They thought to be  very “smart” when they quit the practice.
    Those “reasons” do not matter.
    What actually matters in my experience, is if the realization of repression exists and with that if our action or lack of it, is consistent with our feelings.
    That is all, simple but very difficult to perceive.

    Then acceptance of our being, our role in Life appears. The fight of the mind to conquer itself as a dog looking to bite its own tail, goes away. The dog is not different than its tail as sex is not different than being a human being.

    While a human being, BE one. “Pure and impure” is not BEING. It is the conditioning of the mind defining, separating, rejecting the tail from the dog.

    For the common good.

     
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