Your role in Life and BEING

When someone suffers in Life and looks for a “solution,” he is told in Spiritual environments: “Detach from your role.” “Pain is unavoidable but suffering is optional.”

It is important to know the distinction between pain and suffering as many use these words interchangeably.

Whenever we refer to something painful (physical,emotional, psychological) that is happening in the “now,” we can refer to that as pain. That sensation is the opposite of pleasure in this world of duality.

However, once the experience has gone by then suffering enters into the picture. The mind may remember the experience and bring a heavy emotional toll, that is a wound or trauma which stays there until it is triggered or recalled.

In the society that I live now, we hear songs all the time bringing the idea of suffering ( one song goes like: “You left me for another..” etc) as perhaps something to be “proud of,” a victim with all the rights and privileges. That song is repeated and the collective consciousness take that as something alright. Nothing wrong with suffering if someone chooses to experience that, but as we know that is optional. I wouldn’t make a song about that but some do.

Thus, suffering is more concerned with recalling something that is gone. Emotionally that is a wound in need of healing.

When a person lives in the mind, to tell her : “Detach from the role” means absolutely nothing, for the “role;” what that person thinks to be or her perception or belief on how the world thinks of her, is all fabricated by the mind. Her mind.

Anyone could believe to be what they want to believe. Whether that is true or not, that is a different story. However, when we are speaking about a person, we are dealing with subjective “truths” more than anything.

That role is there. It is very real for the mind and to ask the mind to be someone else and detach from what it believes to be is contradictory.

That is how we could observe “spiritual” individuals pretending to BE something that they are not. The issue is that they live only in the mind.

It is until a person is able to FEEL what they ARE beyond the mind, that is once they could experience to be something else besides the body (name it what you will) when the mind realizes that whatever it has created is only something partial because there is a FEELING which could overtake our experience and bring us elation, joy without anything external special occurring in our mental world.

For instance, the mind could worry about any problem : What is going to happen? How can I resolve that? Overthinking enters. Anxiety settles, but then; we decide to be AWARE of that which I am talking about and a current of joy arrives. We feel good.

So what is that which I am talking about?

It is a presence. It came for the first time when I was meditating in my Brahma Kumaris days. I thought I was having “Yoga with God” given my background at that time. I wrote about this 10 years ago. Here is the article:

It finally happened! – Time to forget

It is during “meditation” or “contemplation” (my preferred label now) when I experience that after following the “steps” shared in the article below:

Knowing “yourself” 101- in 7 easy steps 🙂

Just as there is a mental “reality,” there is one transcending that. Which could be overwhelming. My friend Mathias called that at one time: “Inner Smile.”

At that point, it is easy to “detach from the role”as that sensation of joy is there. It overwrites everything else. It is an automatic “bye, bye” to the mind and its endless thoughts and worries.

Then the “I” wants to feel that “all the time, ” but it is not something that it is done. It just happens. The “doing” is to sit there “doing” nothing.

Now as I am writing this, the feeling is there.. Perhaps it can happen while “talking and moving around”? 🙂

Ah! Remembrance… perhaps?